According to David Foster Wallace, "the most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are hardest to see and talk about." The first error most of us make with our life objectives is that we don't talk about them. That isn't to say you don't have a rough concept, or even a big vision, of how you want your life to evolve. But so many of us get buried in the everyday churn of life, hoping that things would improve. We chose to sit on our laurels rather than take action to discover and learn from our mistakes.
Here are seven typical blunders that might be preventing you from achieving your life objectives. And, more crucially, how to correct it if you make any of these errors.
You pursue too many goals at once.
In most circumstances, setting lofty goals is a good thing. When it comes to life ambitions, however, there is such a thing as "too much." Having too many life goals might cause you to lose concentration and fail to attain your objectives. So here's some guidance. Maintain simplicity. Create one or two life objectives for each key aspect of your life (family, health, work, etc.).
You set unachievable, unrealistic life goals.
Another typical error individuals make is establishing utterly unrealistic goals. That isn't to suggest you can't establish big, ambitious goals. But only within limits. Saying "I want to be a billionaire" will almost certainly lead to disappointment. Set goals that you truly feel you can accomplish in your lifetime. Also, don't put too much emphasis on material goods. What would you rather have: a best friend for a spouse and children who grow up to make the world a better place... or becoming a multi-millionaire without any friends or family? Set your objectives based on the people and things that are most important to you in life.
You only dream about the outcome.
If you simply look at what's at the end of the road, you'll lose out on all the fantastic things that happen along the way. In other words, the road toward accomplishing each of your goals is amazing. And the trip is frequently the most rewarding part. If you blink, you could miss it. So don't get too caught up with the ultimate outcome. Instead, be mindful of the tiny things that make you chuckle and grin along the journey.
You focus too much on the past.
We frequently become psychologically hooked on things and situations from the past. But here's the thing: that you have the potential to imagine, wonder, create, construct, change, and love... right now, at this very now, makes life considerably more joyful. Put the past behind you and concentrate on the present. Being alive and breathing is a miracle in and of itself. So live in the present moment and let go of the past. You don't require it.
You cultivate negative thoughts instead of positive ones.
Destiny is not a question of chance, but of decision. Every success and failure in your life is a direct outcome of your thinking. The single most crucial ingredient in attaining your life objectives and real happiness is faith in yourself. So instead of looking down at your feet, gaze up at the sky.
You keep doing the same things over and over.
The ONLY thing that is permanent in life is change. If you're caught in a rut, it's possible that you're doing things that aren't working. Yes, you are most likely working quite hard. But ask yourself the difficult question: am I getting the outcomes I want? If not, it may be time to reconsider your options. To achieve your life objectives, you must continually test, adapt, and change until you find the ideal strategy to improve your life.
You don’t create an action plan to achieve your goals.
Too many of us concentrate on techniques and advice rather than developing a comprehensive action plan. The fact is that I may offer you a list of mistakes and advice, but until you establish an action plan to bring you where you want to go, you will end up in the same predicament over and over. This is how you do it: Divide each of your life objectives into attainable milestones that you want to achieve each year, month, and week. If this seems like a lot of labor, you're correct. However, as Antoine de Saint-Exupery put it, "a goal without a plan is just a wish." So, define your goals now and get started on your action plan.
